It starts out so pure. Parents sign their kids up for soccer, basketball or other sports--all for the right reasons--to improve fitness and coordination, learn new skills, build character and have fun. With child obesity rates skyrocketing and budget-crunched schools eliminating physical education classes, organized sports are playing an increasingly important role in getting today's kids moving.
Yet all too often, when the whistle blows and the game begins, a strange phenomenon occurs. "People start to think, 'If you're not a winner, you're a loser,'" says Kevin Daugherty, youth sports specialist for the American Sport Education Program, a Champaign, Illinois-based group that provides resources for coaches and parents. And that's when destructive behavior starts.
Horror stories abound of "trash talking," fighting and other forms of disrespect toward opponents, officials and even teammates. And, sadly enough, the offenders are often the parents.
When Winning Means Losing
"Our culture bombards us with messages that winning is everything," Daugherty says. "But many people don't seem to realize that youth sports are different from professional sports. Pro sports are about winning games and making money. Youth sports are about having fun, improving skills, developing character and learning to make a lifetime commitment to physical activity."
Kids who feel pressured to win are at risk for dropping out, says ASEP's school sports specialist David McCann. "The two main reasons kids play sports is to have fun and to be with their friends," McCann says. "Winning is way down on their list." Most kids would rather be active participants on a losing team, he says, than sit on the bench of a winning one.
It's Supposed To Be Fun
Overemphasis on competition is central to why an estimated four to five percent of the 25 million American kids involved in organized sports drop out each year, says Marty Ewing of the Institute for the Study of Youth Sports at Michigan State University. This dropout rate jumps to 10 to 14 percent when kids hit middle school, an age she calls "the most critical time in a child's life" to encourage activity. Precisely when budding adolescents need the physical and mental benefits of sports participation, they are at the greatest risk of quitting and becoming sedentary.
"Community programs exist for kids ages six to 13, but opportunities diminish in middle school," Ewing says. "If kids don't make their school team, they often don't have other options."
At this age, too, middle schoolers complain that sports "become too serious and stop being fun," she says. "Girls say coaches put them under too much pressure; boys complain that coaches play favorites. And kids who aren't very good feel discouraged from playing at all."
KEEPING YOUR CHILD MOTIVATED
Be a Soccer Mom, Not a Soccer Maniac
Girls are at greater risk for becoming sedentary than boys are, with some research suggesting that even at the grade school level, girls are less active than boys. For example, a study of more than 700 elementary school children in Minnesota revealed striking gender differences in playground behavior.
"Boys gravitate toward ball games that involve such basic motor skills as kicking, catching and throwing and that tend to involve set rules for play," report researchers from the Melpomene Institute for Women's Health Research in St. Paul. "In contrast, girls gravitate toward more social play, shadowing teachers, playing in small groups on the swings or sitting and talking."
Get Your Kids Moving
By adolescence, kids tend to become even less active, in part because of competing demands on teenagers' time--from homework and jobs to surfing the 'net and playing video games. Participation in physical activity continues to decline throughout high school and "plummets" in college, says Howell Wechsler, physical activity specialist at the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention in Atlanta.
"We're no longer a society where kids go running around the neighborhood," he says. "They've got computers and 98 TV channels and parents who are worried that they might be kidnapped." That's why, Howell says, "we've got to make physical activity appealing so kids will want to participate and make it a lifetime habit."
Tips for Parents
Experts offer this advice for parents who want to "jump start" inactive kids:
The American Sport Education Program
They offer a variety of material for parents and coaches including a 16-page SPORT PARENT SURVIVAL GUIDE.
Call 1-800-747-5698 for more information.
The Melpomene Institute
They offer two brochures, "Fit Kids" (free) and "Girls, Self-Esteem and Sports" ($1). Send a self-addressed, stamped envelope to:
1010 University Ave.
St. Paul, MN 55104.
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Carol Krucoff is an award-winning medical writer and health columnist, and the founding editor of the Health Section of THE WASHINGTON POST, where her nationally syndicated column, "Bodyworks," is featured.